BOOKSThe Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters
Our gatherings are lackluster and unproductive, but don't have to be. Drawing on decades as a facilitator, Priya shows how gathering transforms how we live together, at home, at work, in our communities, and beyond.
Gatherings crackle and flourish when real thought goes into them, when (often invisible) structure is baked into them, and when a host has the curiosity, willingness, and generosity of spirit to try.
In The Art of Gathering, Priya Parker argues that the gatherings in our lives are lackluster and unproductive—which they don’t have to be. We rely too much on routine and the conventions of gatherings when we should focus on distinctiveness and the people involved. At a time when coming together is more important than ever, Parker sets forth a human-centered approach to gathering that will help everyone create meaningful, memorable experiences, large and small, for work and for play.
Drawing on her expertise as a facilitator of high-powered gatherings around the world, Parker takes us inside events of all kinds to show what works, what doesn’t, and why. She investigates a wide array of gatherings—conferences, meetings, a courtroom, a flash-mob party, an Arab-Israeli summer camp—and explains how simple, specific changes can invigorate any group experience.
The result is a book that’s both journey and guide, full of exciting ideas with real-world applications. The Art of Gathering will forever alter the way you look at your next meeting, industry conference, dinner party, and backyard barbecue—and how you host and attend them.
WHAT YOU’LL FIND INSIDE
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Most of us skip the first, hardest step: naming why we're actually gathering. Priya shows how a real purpose changes everything downstream, starting with your guest list. Closing doors to the wrong people isn't rude. It's what makes room for the right ones to actually connect.
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Being a "chill" host feels generous, but it isn't. Priya argues that stepping back from your power as host doesn't create a power-free room; it creates a vacuum someone else will fill, often not in the way you'd want. Real hosting means using your authority on your guests' behalf.
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A gathering starts the moment people hear about it, not when it officially begins. Priya shows how to prime your guests before they arrive and why a few clear, pop-up rules can open a room up to people who don't already know each other, rather than shutting it down.
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Harmony isn't the only thing worth protecting in a group. Priya makes the case for "good controversy," the kind that's designed for and given real structure, not avoided, and shows why every gathering needs a real ending instead of just fading out.
The Art of Gathering Online Course
TAKE THE COURSEAnyone has the ability to gather well with the right set of skills. Over six weeks, you'll learn the core lessons to plan a real gathering of your own.
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The New Rules of Gathering Guide
Five rules to rethink what your parties, events, and even workplace meetings could actually look like.
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